An drawing her boundaries for the first time

This was omitted by Ranger’s report and brings a lot of context to the case:

Kanade reminds tulpas in the chat to headpat their host by doing a facepalm. An (KitKat) is asking why, Kanade asks her if she doesn’t enjoy getting headpats from their host.

An says that for her headpats are a patronizing gesture.

I ask An if her giving people headpats in VRChat was patronizing too, she denies patting people.

Another user agrees with An and shares her experience. An says that she doesn’t have problems with being cute and liking headpats but imposing it on others is not okay. She add that asking for a headpat is putting a pressure on people since they might feel bad with risking hurting other’s feelings with not giving consent.

Kanade agrees with An and apologizes for being imposing.

An specified that she doesn’t want Kanade to offer her headpats as she feels bad with refusing. Since this moment, genuine offers of headpats that An could feel bad with refusing, are violation of her boundaries.