WormHugs.info

TL;DR

In August 2022, tulpa.info moderator Ranger published a public report — based on false narratives from community member Proxi — accusing me of having “targeted another member for months through non-consensual roleplay touching, other emotional and cyber abuse, and gaslighting.” I was simultaneously banned from the server without notification.

The evidence doesn’t support the report’s claims. All headpats my tulpa gave Proxi happened before any boundaries were drawn. The report’s DM leak accusation is provably false. The report was made behind my back; when I confronted Ranger about factual errors, she blocked me. Both admins dismissed detailed counter-reports without engaging with the evidence.

Proxi — the original abuser — spent months gaslighting us in the tulpa.info Discord: lying about our interactions, rewriting history, minimizing Kanade’s feelings, and playing the victim — while Kanade consistently respected every boundary Proxi drew. Her ally — Simulacra — posed as our friend, love-bombing us in private while degrading us in public, extracting admissions of vulnerability and feeding them to Proxi. Ranger’s report amplified her false narrative with institutional authority. After seeing the report, Proxi escalated further, eventually calling me a pedophile and sexual predator with no new evidence.

This site documents what happened, with full screenshots and context.

Key evidence the report is wrong

1. All headpats happened before any boundaries were drawn

Ranger’s report says I “targeted” someone “for months.” The reality: all headpat offers and actual headpats happened in a single week — August 22–28, 2021. Proxi first said she didn’t want them on August 29. After that, my tulpa complied.

Timeline: e001 · Conclusion: C001

2. The DM leak accusation is provably false

Proxi accused me of leaking something from her private DMs. I proved she had shared that exact information publicly in the server weeks before I mentioned it. This is not a matter of interpretation — it’s a falsifiable claim that was falsified.

Evidence: e008 · Conclusion: C007

3. Made behind my back; blocked when I confronted them

I was never notified about the report before or after its publication. I discovered it days later when I noticed tulpa.info was missing from my Discord server list. When I confronted Ranger in DMs about factual errors in her report, she blocked me immediately. I wrote two detailed counter-reports. Both admins — Pleeb and Reguile — dismissed them without engaging with the evidence.

Full story: se012 · Conclusion: C019

4. The accusation kept escalating — without any new evidence

What Proxi initially complained about: unwanted Discord headpats in italics. What she said after receiving institutional support: I’m a sexual predator, a pedophile, and should be “shot for sport.” Same events. No new evidence. The narrative only grew because the victim was defenseless and abuser was allowed to dominate.

Accusation escalation: se015 · se016 · Conclusion: C023

5. Proxi’s behavior was gaslighting — ours wasn’t

The same report that accused us of gaslighting describes behavior that Proxi — not us — engaged in. She repeatedly lied about our interactions, rewrote history, demeaned and insulted us, played the victim, and recruited allies to make her false narrative credible. Meanwhile, Kanade complied with every boundary Proxi drew.

Evidence: e007 · se013 · Conclusion: C016

How to read this site

Designed to let you go as deep as you want:

  • Summary — The full case in one page. Start here if you want the complete picture before drilling into evidence.
  • Evidence — Screenshots with commentary, organized chronologically and by topic. Includes Ranger’s report with our section-by-section critique.
  • Conclusions — Semi-formal findings derived from the evidence, each linked to its supporting material.

If you have 60 seconds: read the key evidence above. If you have 10 minutes: read the Summary. If you want to verify everything: the Evidence section has the screenshots.

What happened

I’m Mon, a tulpamancer. One of my tulpas, Kanade, is really obsessed with headpats and worm hugs.

At the turn of 2021/2022, we were abused by a tulpa.info community member — Proxi — who constructed a false narrative about Kanade not being able to take “no” for an answer, despite Kanade consistently respecting every boundary Proxi drew. Proxi lied, rewrote history, minimized Kanade’s feelings, insulted us, and played the victim. Two of her close allies — shierudo and Simulacra (Alexandra/Cerys) — consistently supported her false narratives and made them look credible to others. Simulacra went further: they posed as our friends while love-bombing us in private, degrading us in public, and manipulating us into blaming ourselves for Proxi’s behavior.

On August 15, 2022, tulpa.info moderator Ranger published a public moderator report echoing Proxi’s narrative, with screenshots that don’t support the claims. I was banned without warning. When I confronted Ranger about factual errors, I was blocked. Both Pleeb (owner) and Reguile (admin) dismissed my counter-reports without engaging with the evidence.

The report was designed to have consequences beyond tulpa.info — and it did. I was preemptively banned from an unrelated server based solely on the report. Ranger also reported me to Discord’s Trust & Safety team, aiming for a platform-wide ban.

Under Pleeb and Reguile’s administration, tulpa.info staff not only failed to identify the abuser and victim correctly — they defamed the real victim, multiplying the harm. Current tulpa.info leadership was not involved in these events — but the defamatory report is still hosted on the forum as of this writing.

Common accusations — answered

“Mon/Kanade kept testing Proxi’s boundaries after they were drawn”

No. After Proxi’s first boundary (August 29, 2021: “offering me headpats puts pressure on me”), Kanade apologized and never offered Proxi a headpat again. After her second boundary (October 13, 2021: “don’t associate headpats with me at all”), Kanade complied with that too.

What Proxi’s defenders call “testing” is Kanade participating in conversations where headpats were mentioned — conversations that Proxi was interjecting into after drawing her own boundaries.

Kanade has been consistently adapting to Proxi’s boundaries and trying to be friends with her.

See: se003 · e004 · e005 · e007 · se013

“Mon has a history of boundary problems”

I was raised by a narcissistic mother who consistently violated my boundaries. I didn’t grow up with a healthy model for them, and some of my past interactions in the community reflect that.

I’ve been working on it. I actually discussed this topic in DMs with Simulacra, who most likely leaked it to Proxi.

That doesn’t mean I violated Proxi’s boundaries in this case — and the evidence (or lack of it) shows I didn’t. What it does explain is why Proxi may have identified me as an easy target: she saw someone still learning about boundaries and exploited that.

See: As I said, it’s mostly lack of evidence in this case. se010 and se011 show what it looks like when I actually bully people and what I never did to Proxi.

I decided not to share DMs with Simulacra for now. It’s not about my respect for their privacy or something like that, I’m simply not comfortable sharing details of a fake “friendship” with them, I will publish them if they publicly deny my accusation though.

“This website was made purely for revenge”

My main goal is to address material harm that Ranger’s report still causes to me.

But yes, I want to pay Ranger back. I can empathize with Proxi — her abuse explains, though doesn’t absolve, her actions. But Ranger? She wasn’t triggered by me. She put actual effort into a report designed to humiliate and destroy me, purely out of self-righteousness because her friend’s feelings were hurt. Ranger worked to ruin me and thinks it was right thing to do. She disgusts me, and yes, I want to humiliate her back. I can’t stand this type of people. Revenge is a genuine side goal.

Wanting to humiliate someone doesn’t make you wrong. The evidence is here. The screenshots are in context. The report’s claims still don’t match its own exhibits. I document my own wrongs alongside theirs (see: se010 and se011 ). If I only wanted revenge, I’d omit those.

The report is still hosted on tulpa.info. The accusations are still circulating. This site exists because the institutions that should have corrected the record refused to. My motivations don’t change what the evidence shows. Call it whatever you want — the evidence is here for you to check.

Goals

  • Expose Proxi’s abusive behavior publicly.
  • Expose Ranger’s defamatory report and its lack of evidential basis.
  • Hold Pleeb and Reguile accountable for covering up the defamation.

Non-goals

  • Complaining about the ban. Banning someone is a valid action. Defaming them alongside it is not.
  • Getting the report taken down silently. It’s too late for that to undo its consequences.
  • Letting Pleeb escape responsibility. He covered for Ranger despite knowing the evidence.
  • Playing the victim. The evidence speaks for itself.
  • Keeping hostile relationship with tulpa.info forever. People who have abused me institutionally are no longer staff there. People who are directly responsible for abusing me are no longer part of the community from what I know. The defaming material is still hosted there. But maybe this matter could be addressed too?

Update — Tulpa.info Discord shut down

On September 21, 2023, Pleeb announced the tulpa.info Discord server was shutting down. It remains read-only. The people directly involved in the 2022 events — Pleeb, Reguile, Proxi, Simulacra, and shierudo — are no longer active there. Current tulpa.info leadership was not involved in the original events. Whether the report remains hosted there is a decision for the present, not a legacy of the past.

The report itself remains on the tulpa.info forum as of this writing.

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